Kay Lawanson’s journey is one marked by resilience, cultural identity, and a deep desire to bridge his heritage with his present. Born in Paddington, London, in the late 1960s, Kay spent his early childhood in Balham, South-West London, alongside his parents and siblings. His parents had come to the UK on scholarships—his father to pursue his studies, while his mother supported the household as a homemaker.
At the age of seven, Kay’s family returned to Nigeria, where he would spend his formative years. Growing up in a middle-class environment shaped by European values, Kay was deeply influenced by education. His father, a professor of engineering, instilled in him a strong emphasis on academic success. Though he did not naturally enjoy studying, Kay persisted, eventually earning a degree in business administration and management—laying the groundwork for a career that would span over 25 years as an IT consultant.
In 1989, Kay returned to the UK at age 20, driven by a desire for independence and new opportunities. He initially stayed with relatives in South-East London before settling in Tilbury, Essex. At the time, Tilbury had a small Black community, but over the years, it has grown more diverse and inclusive—a change Kay has witnessed firsthand.
Kay’s professional life was not without its challenges. As a Black man in IT during the 1990s, he encountered systemic racism, from police stop-and-search incidents to workplace discrimination. These experiences, though painful, shaped his understanding of resilience and the gradual progress of societal attitudes toward race and equity.
Despite the challenges, Kay remained committed to community engagement. He is actively involved in initiatives such as the Over 50s Black Men’s Forum (O5BM), which fosters mental health awareness, business development, and peer support. These forums provide a space for shared experiences and connection among men with similar life stories.
As a father to an 11-year-old son, Kay places great importance on imparting African values, striving to help his son appreciate his Nigerian roots while navigating the complexities of dual cultural identities. Faith also plays a central role in Kay’s life. Born into a Muslim family, he was encouraged to choose his own spiritual path, ultimately embracing Christianity while maintaining a deep respect for all religions.
Kay’s journey—from Nigeria to the UK, through the corridors of IT consultancy, and into the heart of his Essex community—reflects a life of purpose, adaptability, and unshakable roots. He remains connected to both his local community and his extended family in Nigeria, continuing to live with pride, wisdom, and no regrets.
